Jan 102013

Hello and happy new year, readers.

We at the WriteSEX blog have been excited to continue bringing you viable information on the ever so relevant topic of publishing erotica.  As experts we strive for perfection in our art, knowing that all we can truly do is improve upon the previous day’s work.

There will be a few new updates to the site overall, I have only to make the time!

What I’m going to cover today has more to do with reflections and advice for the erotic author.  Yes, I know I gave some advice some time back and it was well read but talking to a few other authors has prompted me to reiterate and add to the previous sage wisdom I’ve posted.

Starting out as an author 13 years ago, I was young, naive, foul mouthed and strongly opinionated.  About everything.

And when I took flack for my writing choice, I had an opinion too.

When I took rejections (yeah, they did happen from time to time) I took them gracefully to the person rejecting me, but I had a tendency to blast the party in question on public loops.

Or worse, I’d whine.  Not like, inner pain, demons tormenting me, whining. That’s valid :P

But “woe is me, the publishing industry sucks…yadda yadda.”

It’s never that an author is unjustified in their feelings (well, sort of) but rather, the feelings need not be displayed because of appearances. There was a story I used to tell about my daily drinking habit vs. those of a lot of the others in publishing and it goes like this:

I drink daily.  Usually 4 a day and it’s mostly wine and whiskey and no more.  Yeah, I spread it out and have food and if I miss a drink big deal.  But I’m consistent.  At conventions, this is obviously not always the case, but the difference is in how my peers act after two or three.  I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut and not get drunk and say stupid things while some of my peers run their mouths and speak things we’re all thinking.

Being drunk isn’t bad, the appearance of unprofessionalism and the inability to remain a publishing professional is.  I’m not advocating a drinking hobby, mind you.  I AM suggesting you as an author remain in control at all times.

Getting negative reviews is similar, as the new author is prone to not having a thick enough skin to let things roll off their shoulders. We all get bad reviews.  Some of us know to let those reviews fuel our career to a new place where our writing grows.

Others know how to blast the big magazines whose competition for quality reviews is enormous and may often be chosen by advertising dollars small press might not have access to.

What Oceania, Christian, Thomas, Jean Marie, Debbie and I have been stressing overall is that you press on if you want this to be a lucrative business.